Guest Episode
May 13, 2024

Dr. James Hollis: How to Find Your True Purpose & Create Your Best Life

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In this episode, my guest is Dr. James Hollis, Ph.D., a Jungian psychoanalyst, renowned educator and author on finding and pursuing one’s unique purpose. Dr. Hollis is also an expert in the psychology of relationships and healing from trauma. We discuss how early family dynamics and social context create patterns of both adaptive and maladaptive behavior and internal narratives that, when examined, lead to better choices and a deeply fulfilling existence.

We discuss discovering your unique self-identity and purpose through specific practices of reflection, meditation and conversations with others. We also discuss self-perception and the evolution of roles within marriages, parent-child relationships, and work.

Throughout the episode, Dr. Hollis provides both basic knowledge and practical tools to help us assess ourselves and better understand who we are and what we really want in careers, relationships of all kinds, and society.

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About this Guest

Dr. James Hollis

James Hollis is a Jungian psychoanalyst, renowned educator, and author of many bestselling books about finding one’s purpose, relationships, and spirituality.

  • 00:00:00 Dr. James Hollis
  • 00:02:14 Sponsors: Mateina, Joovv & BetterHelp
  • 00:05:57 Self, Ego, Sense of Self
  • 00:13:59 Unconscious Patterns, Blind Spots, Dreams; Psyche & Meaning
  • 00:21:56 Second Half of Life, Purpose, Depression
  • 00:25:37 Sponsor: AG1
  • 00:27:08 Tool: Daily Reflection; Crisis
  • 00:31:47 Families & Children, Permission & Burdens
  • 00:37:27 Complex Identification, Self-Perception; Social Media & Borderline
  • 00:41:55 Daily Stimulus Response, Listening to the Soul
  • 00:45:40 Exiting Stimulus-Response, Loneliness, Burnout
  • 00:51:19 Meditation & Perception, Reflection
  • 00:54:58 Sponsor: Waking Up
  • 00:56:15 Recognizing the “Shadow” & Adulthood
  • 01:02:48 Socialization; Family & Life Journey
  • 01:09:04 Relationships & “Otherness”, Standing Your Ground
  • 01:15:51 Marriage, “Starter Marriages” & Evolution; Parenting
  • 01:19:37 Shadow Issues, Success & External Reward, Personal Growth
  • 01:27:59 Men, Alcohol, “Stoic Man”, Loneliness, Fear & Longing
  • 01:37:33 Women & Men, Focused vs. Diffuse Awareness; Male Rite of Passage
  • 01:44:31 Sacrifice, Relationships; Facing Fears
  • 01:48:20 Therapy, “Abyss of the Self”, Repeating Patterns & Stories
  • 01:55:17 Women, Career & Family, Partner Support; Redefining Roles
  • 02:01:40 Pathology & Diagnosis, Internet
  • 02:07:05 Life, Suffering & Accountability, “Swamplands” & Task
  • 02:11:32 Abuse & Recovery of Self, Patience, Powerlessness
  • 02:14:11 Living a Larger Life; “Shut Up, Suit Up, Show Up”
  • 02:17:49 Life Stages; Despair & Integrity Conflict
  • 02:25:00 Death, Ego, Mortality & Meaning
  • 02:38:07 Zero-Cost Support, Spotify & Apple Reviews, Sponsors, YouTube Feedback, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter

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