Defining Healthy Masculinity & How to Build It | Terry Real

Terry Real is a therapist and best-selling author expert on male emotional health and how men can build the skills for healthy relating to others: in relationships, work, friendships and to themselves. We discuss how mixed and ever-changing messages about what masculinity is are impacting the mental and physical health of men and boys. Terry explains how learning the skill of "relationality" leads to improvements in all aspects of boys' and men's lives and shares practical tools for how to do that. We also discuss the essential role of having a close male community to build confidence and self-esteem. This conversation offers actionable guidance for boys, men and women seeking to build healthier relationships with themselves and others.

Books

• Iron John: A Book About Men
• I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
• Codependents' Guide to the 12 Steps
• Death: The End of Self-Improvement
• Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

Other Resources

• Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)
• Al Anon
• Feedback Wheel (Terry Real)
• Working with Unhealthy Self-Esteem in Men
• Relationship Online Courses
• Couples Therapy Training
• Stand By Me

People Mentioned

• Esther Perel: psychotherapist, relationship expert
• Carol Gilligan: professor of psychology, NYU
• Jon Bon Jovi: singer, guitarist
• David Bowie: singer, actor
• Vivek H. Murthy: physician; former U.S. Surgeon General
• Steve Jobs: tech entrepreneur
• Robert Sapolsky: professor of biology, Stanford University
• Dan Siegel: psychiatrist; Mindsight Institute
• Gregory Bateson: anthropologist, social scientist
• Frank Beach: ethologist; founder of behavioral endocrinology
• Robert Bly: author
• Jocko Willink: retired US Navy SEAL, author
• River Phoenix: actor
• Rob Reiner: filmmaker, actor
• Carla Shatz: professor of biology and neurobiology, Stanford University
• Barbara Chapman: neuroscientist
• Edward Tronick: developmental psychologist